So let me start with the positives. The whole “five love languages” thing is definitely worth a look. It’s helpful for identifying ways in which you do and can bless other people. And for identifying the ways in which you and others prefer to have love displayed towards them (terrible sentence, I know).
The bone I have to pick is that for some reason, out of all the many Christian self-helpy kinda things that have been written over the years, the book on five love languages seems to have been added to the bible as if it’s some infallible part of theology. I don’t even know that many people who have actually read the book, yet everyone seems to know about the five love languages and talk about them as if they are the indisputable truth. I’m not saying they’re not true. I am saying they’re not in the bible, but we talk about them as if they are. No one goes around talking about having a purpose driven life or being wild at heart as if they’re concepts of biblical proportions. Of course they are biblically based (or at least I hope so), but we talk about them as if they are books, by people, and imperfect people at that. But when it comes to the five love languages, suddenly everyone’s on the band wagon talking about it like they’re part of the scriptures. “And thus He gave some to be teachers, some evangelists, some who love physical touch, some who love gifts etc…” I’m pretty sure Paul didn’t write that.
I’m quite proud of the fact that I’ve come up with a sixth love language that I’ve identified in my own life. Food. No, I’m actually serious. I love cooking food for people. Whenever I have guests I do my utmost to feed them and fatten them up. And it doesn’t fit under any of the love languages that have already been written about, cause the fact is, I hate acts of service. The odds of me doing your dishes for you are pretty low. And I’m sorry if you feel that I’m ungrateful after you do my dishes, the fact is that I simply just don’t notice these things, cause acts of service is not my love language. So when I cook food for people, it’s not an act of service. It’s one of my love languages :)
So what I’m saying is, five love languages is good, but let’s not put them on the same plane with the ten commandments and the stuff that is in the bible. The bible is from God, five love languages are a human creation only, designed to help us to show love and care for each other in ways that actually mean something to the individuals involved. Anyway. Enough ranting for now.